Ever since I wrote about my engagement and my new house, the UPS guy has been at my house pretty much every single day.
Seriously, I’ve received more packages in 3 weeks than the last three years combined. Many of those have been gifts from friends, family, and a few people I’ve never even met.
To be honest, I’ve never been the best gift giver.
It’s not that my intentions aren’t good, or that I don’t do nice things for people, but when it comes to the thoughtful gift, I’ve just never been very good at following through. Which is too bad, because I could improve just about every aspect of both personal and business relationships simply by being better about giving gifts.
I want to take a second to illustrate why I say this, by mentioning a few of the gifts I’ve received lately:
- Corsair Triple Smoke – During Pioneer Nation I held a (very) small get together at a hard to get into whiskey bar on Saturday night. I had a lot in common from a business perspective with a girl that came to the event, so I randomly asked her if she would be interested in joining. She did, and we all had a great time. A week later a bottle of Corsair Triple Smoke arrives in the mail. It was one of the whiskeys we drank, and I’d mentioned that I wanted to go buy a bottle because it was one of my new favorites.
- Lagavulin 16 Year – Someone who I’ve done a lot of work with over the past couple of years, somehow found out what my favorite bottle of scotch is (Lagavulin 16) and sent it over as a total surprise.
- Napa Valley Merlot – A reader who I’d only met briefly sent over a bottle of his favorite Merlot from his hometown in Napa.
- Nest Thermostat – Over the last month I’d spent quite a few hours working on a guest post for a high traffic site. We could never get the post quite right, so decided to abort and I’ll use the content elsewhere. The person behind it sent me a Nest Thermostat with a note that said “Thanks for all the hard work on the article, thought you could use this for the new house.” Even he could not understand how perfect of a gift this was.
Why Am I Telling You This?
It’s not very often you get a thoughtful gift out of nowhere, and in the last month I’ve received a lot of very thoughtful, and very unexpected gifts.
I can’t even describe how appreciative I am of these. More importantly, it lets me know that these people I’ve had interactions with appreciate me and the time I’ve spent with them.
So what does this mean?
It means in the future, I’ll help them out however I can, with whatever they want. By spending a little bit of time and money, they’ve proven to me that they care – the very least I can do is care in return.
It wasn’t until receiving some of these gifts that I realize just how unthoughtful I really am. I rarely send out thank you cards, let alone send someone a nice bottle of scotch or a personalized thermostat
But now after understanding exactly how I feel upon receiving them, I realize I need to do a much better job of giving.
Not only does it make you feel good, but it allows you to show someone you actually care as opposed to just saying it – and in a world where a lot of people like to talk, showing can be a gamechanger.
Does it have to be expensive? Absolutely not. A card in the mail can be just as meaningful as something fancy, at risk of being cliche, it truly is the thought that counts.
So today I’m making a resolution to give more. Whether it’s a small thank you note, or a thoughtful gift, I want to work this into my routine as part of my life and business. If nothing else, it will make me feel good, but I have a feeling over time the effect it’ll have on every aspect of my life will be a much greater reward than that.
Image credit: Gift box by Big Stock.