I get emails all the time from people who are trying to become location rebels, trying to find a career that’s more suitable for them, or just want to make changes in their life – but can’t.
Some have been trying for years, some literally only a matter hours, but almost all of them have very similar things in common which need to be pointed out.
Its worth noting that I’ve been there, and thats why I feel it’s so important that I write this post. As I mentioned my unhappiness lasted for awhile. It took me a over a year to admit to myself that I really needed a change, and to put the plans in motion to get there. It’s difficult, and there are times where you’re probably going to wonder if it’s really worth all the stress you’re placing on yourself
The answer is yes, it is. If you’re unhappy you owe it to yourself to go out and find something that will make you happy. We have one life to live – and if you’re not your best self, then not only are you going to be miserable, but you won’t find any greater calling to help others in the process.
So, if you’re failing at quitting your job, or otherwise failing to craft your dream life here are some of the most common reasons why. These may seem like I’m being a little harsh, but hey, sometimes the truth hurts.
You don’t know what you want
This is probably the most common reason that more people aren’t off gallivanting with unicorns and eating sno-cones all day. It’s because they don’t realize that all they want to do is trot around with mythical horned creatures. It’s not until you can solidly say “Damn, that sounds awesome, that’s what I want to do with my life” that you’ll have the proper motivation to move forward with your goals.
The bottom line, if you don’t know what you want, how can you make forward progress towards it? Exactly – you can’t.
This doesn’t need to be as daunting as it seems. When I quit my job I knew I wanted to own my own business and travel – that’s it. I had very little clarity other than that – and look what things have evolved in to. My life is consumed by a business doing work I love, and traveling the world to destinations most people only dream of.
So, how do you figure out what you want?
There are all sorts of ways to do this, but I like to say, rather than asking the question “What’s your perfect day look like?” (I ask that question a lot), ask yourself this:
“What does your perfect year look like?”
You see your perfect day probably has nothing to do with work, it doesn’t need to, its your dream. However, your perfect year has got to involve something productive. If it doesn’t then you should just plan on hitting the lottery and calling it good.
In your perfect year how would you spend the majority of your days? Where would you spend them? How much money would you need to do this? Who would you spend your time with? What problems would you want to help people solve?
Answer those questions and you’re going to have a much better sense of what you need to be working towards.
Seriously, until you figure out what you want, at least in a general sense, stop everything you’re doing because you’re probably wasting your time.
Reason number two you haven’t quit your job:
Your blog sucks
Do you have to have a blog in order to quit your job? Absolutely not, but if you’re reading this site, are interested in lifestyle entrepreneurship, and want to work for yourself, then it’s a damn good idea to go out and get one.
One of the most read posts ever on this site is How to Improve Your Life in One Easy Step. Hint: I tell you to start a blog.
I would not be here talking to you were it not for Location 180, it’s completely changed everything about my life – for the better.
You can start a blog and experience similar results. You can meet people who are interested in the same things as you, find opportunities you wouldn’t have otherwise, give yourself a platform for larger scale projects, and create a personal brand.
But, and this is a big but, if your blog sucks, it will do more harm than good.
All of the time I receive emails asking for advice and asking why they haven’t been more successful online. You would be shocked at how bad some of these websites are – I continuously am. Now, I’m not saying this to be an asshole or belittle anyone, but seriously, if you want to do what I or a number of other people are doing, build a better blog!
Here are some of the best ways you can do this:
Decide on a theme or hook as early as possible. People have to be able to associate your site with something. ”Oh, ____ is the guy who does ______”. No really, people should be able to say that.
In my case “Oh, Sean is the guy who helps people build businesses that can be run from anywhere.”
Or at least that’s what I want people to say.
I know in the past I’ve said, start a blog even if you have nothing to write about – and I still think thats true. Writing will help you figure that out what you want to talk about, but, you still have to figure it out. Within a few months you need something unique to say about a particular subject – and that’s really important.
Make sure you keep your blog up to date, make it look presentable, write in a way that is conducive to the average web reader who likes to skim articles, oh, and provide good content. Do these things and your blog won’t suck anymore.
You know what happens when your blog doesn’t suck? People come back. They want to give you money. Bigger websites start talking about you. All of those things help build credibility and a reputation which makes all other business ventures and goals MUCH easier in the future.
A blog can be your most valuable tool in lifestyle entrepreneurship – or it can be a death knell. It’s up to you.
Oh, and please, if you’re serious about this, get a self hosted blog. No more of that blogspot crap.
Reason numero tres you’re still in a job that you don’t like:
You’re surrounded by people who are also failing to create their dream life
Are you still best friends with the dude you knew in high school who’s flipping burgers at Micky D’s? Thought so. You are a product of your environment. If you want to be a baller, jet-set entrepreneur, then start hanging out with other baller, jet-set entrepreneurs!
Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with traditional 9 to 5 jobs, or even flipping burgers for that matter, if you’re happy. However, If you, yes YOU, are unhappy with your life, surround yourself with people who you aspire towards and want to be like. Not to mention it more than I already do, but that’s why programs like Location Rebel are so great. You are immediately plugged into a group of people who all have the goal of working for themselves and living life on their own terms.
What are the odds you sit down at a bar and the guy next to you has that same goal? Probably not likely.
Along with that, are you going out and trying to find people who share the same goals as you? The word networking often gets a negative connotation, so I’m going to use drinking. Are you going out and drinking with people you want to be like? Beer, coffee, water, I don’t care what it is, but find people in your city and offer to buy them a drink. Those relationships will be priceless.
You aren’t thinking outside the box
Have you been working at this awhile, and simply trying to replicate stuff other people have done? Bingo! There’s your problem.
In order to be successful working for yourself, you have to have something thats unique about you, something that only you bring to the table. Learn what that is, cultivate it, and promote it.
Don’t get me wrong you can learn a ton of very important tactics from people like me and numerous others. However, in the end at least some of the components of your strategy have gotta be uniquely you.
Take everything you learn and put your own spin on it. This allows you to provide value to others while not rehashing the same ideas. I know you’re a relative expert on something consider starting there and then move forward.
You’re asking the wrong questions
So often I find that deep down the people who aren’t being successful are the ones that look at life and business from the stand point of “what can the world do for me?”
EH! No, WRONG ANSWER.
Always, ALWAYS you should be asking “what can I do for the world?” Your success is a direct correlation to the amount of value you provide to others. Provide tons of value and big things will happen. Try and exploit the system or make a quick buck? Good luck sustaining that in the long run.
Even worse than people asking the wrong questions however are the people asking no questions.
I used to be the dude who didn’t ask questions. In fact, my whole life in school, jobs, whatever, I didn’t ask many questions. I wasn’t an inquiring mind. That’s all changed, as almost more importantly than anything else, it’s the quality of your questions that will help to determine your success.
Things Can Change in an Instant
This post was not meant to demoralize, demean, or offend anyone. Rather my goal was that this post would inspire, motivate, and perhaps cause a couple of “aha!” moments.
As I mentioned in the beginning of the post, I’ve been there and I’ve fallen victim to all of the things listed here many times – occasionally I still do. But if you’re serious about making major changes in your life, it’s time to start getting serious about how you’re approaching it. You can’t half ass your way through it and wait for the perfect moment to make the leap or hit it big. That moment won’t come and it will definitely take your full ass in order to make things happen!
However, things happen quickly these days. All it takes is the right one person, one article, one job to change the trajectory of your life forever.
Are you going to go out there and do everything in your power to put yourself in the best situation possible for that to happen? Or are you going to continue being comfortable and skating by?
Doesn’t matter to me, but I hope you’ll choose, and pursue with full conviction whatever it is that will make you truly happy and allow to you do the most good in the world.